Dating: The First Thing

Have Some Fun

One little date isn’t a big deal, right? Wrong. Every person you hang with influences you either positively or negatively. Even a casual get-together at the bowling alley, strolling downtown, or buying a scoop of ice cream is important enough to think through before you head out the door.

Dating is fun. The first thing to know is there isn’t any need to say yes to every invitation. Remember to slow down and consider the circumstances.

  • Will you be around adults?
  • Do your parents know who you are spending time with?
  • Do your friends respect boundaries, rules, and, yes, even laws?

Stick With Friends

Surround yourself with good friends. When you’re with a group, don’t target one guy to spend all of your time with. That good-looking guy may have some ugly habits like under-age drinking, a critical spirit, or a garbage mouth. First thing before you go out, spend time reading the Bible and praying. By focusing on God, no matter what your friends or wannabe friends do, you’ll be secure in a lasting relationship.

Get Attention

Memorize verses like John 4:10 (NLT) If you only knew the gift God has for you and who you are speaking to, you would ask me, and I would give you living water. In other words, what God offers is real, needed, and forever. Relationships with people come and go. Keep God as your top priority relationship. You’ll benefit from His gifts like lasting security and attention to your needs. In a real relationship with Jesus, you’ll avoid dates that could cause life-long harm.

The first thing to know is who you are in God’s family. …You are a chosen people … (I Peter 2:9 NCV).Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky. (Philippians 2:15 NIV).

Shine, girls, shine!

By: Terri Kelly



Terri Kelly is the author of Mary Slessor: Missionary Mother. As a writer she has contributed to several books, including Divine Moments, Additional Christmas Moments, and Stupid Moments, Faith and Family and Spirit and Heart. Terri has published articles in Kids’ Ark Magazine, Clubhouse, WHOA Magazine, Asheville Lifestyles and numerous online publications. Her blog,, addresses issues teachers deal with on a daily basis. She teaches at writing conferences and assists with the Asheville Christian Writers Conference in Asheville, North Carolina.

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