Do not handle! Do not taste! Do not touch!? These rules, which have to do with things that are all destined to perish with use, are based on merely human commands and teachings ~ Colossians 2:21-22
Do you stop and wonder why Christians appear less free than non-believers? Do ever feel as though your life is a set of rules; sacrifices that seem harder to live up to with every passing season? As your kids get older, the pressures get tougher and parents around you seem to bail from the formulas that Christian mom’s follow.
Do you ever feel betrayed by the very faith that saved you? My dear sister, as a mom who has wrestled through so many of those emotions and also took great pride in holding fast while others gave way…BE FREE IN CHRIST. There is no formula that will guarantee your child will love Jesus, walk in His ways and live the Christian life you have painted. Remember Adam and Eve? They had the perfect parent in the perfect garden.
Stop letting others judge you and stop judging others by what you allow and don’t allow your teens to do. Ultimately, our teens need to know Jesus, not rules established by well-intended Christian circles. Our teens need to know our love for them is greater than any sin they commit. Our teens need to know JESUS loves them more than any sin they commit. His grace doesn’t give us permission to sin; it gives us freedom to come near to be washed and made new in Him.
Does this mean we don’t discipline and let our teens do whatever they want? Absolutely not! That would not be love. Too often what happens is we as moms put the blame on God for rules He didn’t lay out, we did. There’s nothing wrong with having rules in our home. Where it gets twisted is when we tell our children or imply that our rules are God’s, when really, they’re ours. It doesn’t portray a right view of God to our children when we use God as the excuse for the rules we want to implement.
Some things we teach absolutely are what God teaches in the bible for His people. Compassion, honesty, integrity, humility, patience, love, prayer, wisdom, faithfulness, and discipline are just a glimpse of the character God desires to instill in us through His Spirit.
What you eat, youth group participation, when you can start dating, curfews, or sports activities…these things are not laid out clearly in scripture. It’s good to have boundaries and rules in our home that help to raise a child in the way they should go, or in the way we as parents desire. Too often these rules become our god and we start judging one another and portraying a picture of Christ to our kids whom they don’t want to follow.
These rules become chains that hold us down from loving each other and ultimately loving Jesus.
Break the chains! Own your own household rules and be free to love and enjoy your family as Christ intends.
By: Kelly Vance