You might ask yourself, Why are some girls so mean?
Mean may be too severe a word. Perhaps these are more appropriate words to use:
Maybe now you wonder if you have been “the mean girl.” I’ve wondered the very same thing about myself. And having had “meanness” done to me, I’m more aware of how it hurts. I never intentionally want to do that.
What can Christian teens do to show we care? Here are some quick and easy ideas:
- When there are several of you planning lunch in the presence of another person, invite them too. Don’t assume they have other plans. They may have. For most, just the thought of feeling included is enough.
- A smile is powerful and will make a huge difference. If you make eye contact with another person, simply smile. A smile says, “I like you or I accept you.” When you turn away after making eye contact a person feels unworthy, unaccepted, or judged.
- Don’t worry if she doesn’t smile back. You do your part. And don’t be offended. Some girls are shy. If this girl is someone you see from time to time, keep smiling. I have a few close friends who are shy. If I had stopped after my first smile or attempt to get to know them, we wouldn’t have become friends. So don’t give up.
- If you are a leader at summer camp or the one in charge at the pool, be prepared to greet those whom work under you. Greet them all with a “hello” or a smile. Otherwise you appear to be in a click and may be named a snob.
- When you approach your friend but she’s engaged in another conversation, say hello and smile to the other person she’s talking too also. When you only talk to your one friend, the other person appears to go unnoticed.
Be Kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:32 (NKJV)
By: Debbie Presnell