Alright Ladies,

I have a confession to make; I love Audrey Hepburn. I can quote all of her movies, I used to have a poster of her on my wall. I truly believe she is one of the prettiest and classiest ladies of all time. She exudes elegance and grace and is always appropriately dressed. When I was thinking of topics for this month a certain conversation kept popping up in my circles: how to dress for your age. To be honest, this point of conversation never accrued to me until now, so I am going to try and tackle just a few of the main misconceptions and hang-ups women have when trying to dress for their age.

We all want to have grace, show our personality and reflect our own style in how we dress, but sometimes what we are wearing is telling the world the wrong story. Younger girls are starting to dress too mature and older woman are trying to hang on to their youth. I want both sides to understand the beauty in both stages of life. We were created for seasons and with seasons come change; we as woman are called to embrace that change and live it out full of grace and truth. So, here are so tips on how to dress appropriately.


Let’s start with the Teens:


This will be my first point for both moms and daughters.

It is so important to be modest in a world full of exposure. There is beauty in mystery. You can still be fashionable and chic while remaining modest.

The trends right now hold a 90’s vibe to them, some of the styles are really cute, but there are ways to remain modest while flowing with the comeback styles.

Off the shoulders shirts are everywhere; this can actually be a really cute style if worn correctly. Pick a top that hits almost the top of your collar bone, remember not showing your skin is beautiful. Also, try wearing a thick strapped tank underneath. You can have fun by putting a patterned tank underneath your shirt, the straps will show at the top of your shoulders, giving your outfit a pop of color.

Dressing age appropriate:


Fashion is great, clothes are great, owning a style is awesome, but when you are dressing too grown up for your age, it becomes a problem. Remember, you will have the rest of your life to be an adult, dress in a way that is meant for your age. Cut back on the make-up, choose leggings to wear under those dresses. Try clear mascara with neutral colored eye-shadows. Don’t contoured, you are gorgeous the way God made you.


Dress with Intention:

 What that means is asking ourselves, “What am I portraying when I go out?”

“What story am I telling?”


Hey Mama’s!

Hey Mama’s of the Polished world! Here are a few tips for you guys too! I love my Mama and she is always on point with her style choices! Remember your daughters are watching you!



Same rules apply here with Mama’s too. Dress modestly, be great examples for your daughters (and sons because they are going to date or are dating a girl). Dress with grace, there are just some things as we get older we have to give up. Even myself, I find that as I am looking closer to thirty than I am twenty that Forever21 is just not my place to shop anymore.


Stop Clothes Swapping

No more clothes swapping with your daughters; even if you are the same size, what she is wearing is not what you should be wearing. There is such a uniqueness in aging gracefully. It is such a lovely thing to see a more mature woman completely confident and comfortable in her age and stage of life. It gives us younger gals reasons to look up to them! Be age-appropriate in how you dress. You don’t have to wear long denim skirts and plaid shirts all the time, just be aware of the prints, styles and lengths you are choosing. You can still be chic, without dressing too young.


Be the Voice

Mama’s be the influencing voice in your daughter’s life. Speak truth and love, be the sound reasoning even if it doesn’t make sense to her at the time. We will always need our Mama’s to be great examples and mentors in our lives, no matter our age. Guide a younger generation to respect themselves and to love others, even in the way they dress. Let your voice be heard.

I hope this is helpful! This is just a small glimpse into what it looks like to dress in grace! I challenge mother’s and daughter’s alike to come together and to share what this looks like on a daily basis Pray for one another, discuss what having class looks like and what it means to be elegant. Talk about how every girl has her own style of grace and how to pursue righteousness and purity.

For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”  – Audrey Hepburn-

By: Taylor Mullican



(Just Because) I Am Allowed to do Anything…

Author, Mary Albers Felkins

This month, I invite you to indulge in a little spiritual nourishment.

You say, ‘I am allowed to do anything’ but not everything is good for you.

And even though ‘I am allowed to do anything’, I must not become a slave to anything.

I Corinthians 6:12 (NLT)

A Thanksgiving table awaits many of us, followed by a holiday season that ushers in carb/fat-heavy parties and celebrations. Whether wreathed by precious people with a feast before me or serving others at the soup kitchen, my gaze and my attention tends to be drawn downward -toward the meal.

Around this time of year, I become a tad more hyper-focused on food and eating. Or whether or not I’ve spent enough time at the gym and/or sustained a healthy weight. Or…

Exercise, weight, food, eating…exercise, weight, food, eating.

Feels somewhat like a mental hamster wheel.

Can you relate?

To consider whether I’ve honored God with my body is always a good thing. (I Corinthians 6:20) However, not at the expense of more important matters.

Scripture says I am allowed to do anything.

You say, ‘I am allowed to do anything’ I Corinthians 6:12a (NLT)

~A second helping? ‘I’m allowed to do anything’

~Indulge in pumpkin pie with whipped cream? ‘I’m allowed to do anything’

~Spread some butter on a yeast roll? ‘I’m allowed to do anything’


It might be that I need to release my grip on the utensil and first consider whether or not I should do that which I am allowed to do. Because abusing this freedom leads to captivity.

Oh, the irony.

Because not everything is good for you (NLT)…or beneficial. (NIV) I Corinthians 12b

At the end of the day, the real point of Thanksgiving isn’t the food or drink. It’s about putting the brakes on the frenzied life-road I travel and thanking the Lord with uplifted hands for His abundant provisions, those He’s made me aware of and the countless more I’ve yet to see. It’s about the people with whom I gather: the family, homeless, neighbors, or friends. Since it’s true that food and the stomach will pass away (vs 13), why let them distract me from that which has eternal value?

If I choose healthful foods and portion sizes and top the Thanksgiving celebration off with a generous walk, but don’t tend the relationships in my midst, the body suffers.

Just because ‘I’m allowed to do anything…’

~Is it beneficial?

~Is it good for me or the body of Christ?

~Does it build up?

If not, I ought not.

But if so, not only am I ‘allowed’, God is please when I exercise the freedom He gives.

Healthy eating tip:

Take sips of water during a meal to slow the pace of eating. But then wait a half hour after you’ve finished your meal to drink the rest of the glass so as not to dilute stomach acid. For some, too much liquid might interfere with complete digestion and cause bloating.


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Author of inspirational romance, creator of happily ever afters
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DRESS it up!

Hey Ladies!

One of my favorite pieces in any wardrobe is a dress that can transition from casual to dressy! It makes putting together an outfit so much easier, but sometimes we don’t know how to make that transition so here are some tips to help!

  • Change shoes:

If you are taking a dress from casual to formal change your shoes.

Instead of wearing cute little tennis shoes or flip flops, wear a heel or a strappy sandal.

It will give your look a more sophisticated feel.

  • Wear a Statement Necklace:

A statement necklace is a go-to piece. It brings interest to an outfit.

Especially if it is a solid print, a necklace can make the pop.

  • Touch-up Your Makeup:

Touch up your makeup for the transition. If it is night put a little darker shade of eye shadow on the outside of your eyes. Also, this is a great opportunity to try a fun lipstick!


Wearing a simple dress doesn’t have to be plain; it can be just as fun and fancy! I dressed my outfit up with some pearls, strappy sandals and a darker lip! Have fun!

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By: Taylor Morgan

October Glory: Sweet Potatoes

Author, Mary Albers Felkins

Something unbelievable happened. Are you ready? Okay, here goes…

I did not write this month’s nutrition article about pumpkins. Amazing!

Yes, I’m aware it’s October. And yes I’m aware pumpkins, like petulant children, expect to take center stage throughout this month, but I’ve got a sweet potato muffin recipe that begs to be shared. Ah, but before you recoil (as I once did) and scrunch your nose at the idea of sweet potatoes, consider the nutrition benefits.

Sweet Potato: An undeniable nutrient gem

~A medium potato contains approximately 6 grams of fiber (soluble and insoluble) and gives a gradual rise to blood sugar, aids digestion, and promotes regularity

~A medium potato contains about 25% of recommended daily Vitamin C

~Rich source of the bio-available, trans form of beta-carotene, a plant compound that is transformed into Vitamin A in our body

~Significant source of potassium (mineral for heart health) and B6 (vitamin that assists with the metabolism of food into energy)

~Contains potent antioxidants that may neutralize free radicals (harmful substances which damage cells and increase risk of cancer)

Now are you ready to get out your mixing bowls and measuring spoons? Thought so.

Mary’s Sweet Potato Muffins

1 cup mashed, cooked sweet potato

2 large egg whites

1/2 cup brown sugar (or white, granulated)

1/4 cup water

1/4 cup unsweetened applesauce

2 tablespoons canola oil

1 tablespoon vanilla extract

1 tablespoon orange zest*

2 cups whole wheat flour (or All-Purpose)

2 teaspoons baking powder

3/4 teaspoon salt

1/4 teaspoon baking soda

¼ cup millet (optional)

1- 8 oz can crushed, unsweetened pineapple

1/4 cup chopped, dried cranberries**

*Zest is obtained by scraping rind off a fresh orange using a zesting tool. Or you can substitute 1 Tablespoon orange juice

**Can use reduced sugar variety (ex. Ocean Spray), though this costs more


1) Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.

2) Mix sweet potato, egg whites, brown sugar, water, applesauce, canola oil, vanilla extract, and orange zest together in a bowl.

3) In a separate bowl, combine whole wheat flour, baking powder, salt, and baking soda together; mix thoroughly with a fork.

4) Combine flour mixture with sweet potato mixture and stir just until dry ingredients are moist. Gently stir in crushed pineapple and chopped cranberries into batter.

5) Spoon batter into the prepared muffin tin.

6) Bake in preheated oven until muffins are browned and tops spring back when pressed lightly in the middle, about 25-30 minutes.

7) Cool in the muffin tin for 5 minutes, then remove and cool completely on a wire rack.

Yield: about 12 muffins

For a memorable and healthful side dish or light alternative to meal gatherings this fall, serve Mary’s Sweet Potato Muffins toasted with a touch of margarine or butter.

NOTE: Sweet potatoes will keep fresh for up to ten days if stored in a cool, dark and well-ventilated place.

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What is in Your Cup this Fall?

Fall Drink Quiz

From the Fall Edition of Refined Magazine


Which is necessary in your cup?
a. Chocolate
b. Vanilla
c. Spice
d. Antioxidants
How much sweet do you hope for in your drink?
a. 80% sweet
b. 60% sweet
c. 50% sweet
d. 30%sweet
How do you feel about the flavor of pumpkin?
a. It is ok.
b. yum!
c. It is my favorite!
d. I’m ok without it.
Pick one:
a. Mocha
b. Chai
c. Latte
d. Tea
How do yo feel about coffee?
a. I like it, but only sweet.
b. It is ok.
c. I am a coffee lover.
d. I’d rather drink tea.


Mostly a’s: Cafe Mocha Latte: You are a sweetheart. You love chocolate and a sweet treat. Try a Cafe Mocha Latte and experiment with different syrups: caramel, vanilla, dark chocolate, etc.
Mostly b’s: Vanilla Chai Tea Latte: You are unique and enjoy the special moments in life. This sweet/spicy drink will liven up any fall day.
Mostly c’s: Pumpkin Spice Latte: You are an adventurer. You love your coffee and that means you are not afraid to mix up your flavor by season. Experiment by adding vanilla, white chocolate, or extra spice!
Mostly d’s: Green Tea: You are one classy gal. Try green tea, it is rich in antioxidants and can be sipped on endlessly throughout the day with great benefit. Add lemon and you hit the next level of delicious meets healthy!
By: Emma Danzey

The Big Clean!

Hello Ladies!


As the last days of Summer come upon us I tend to find myself mentally preparing for the season to change. From the warm nights to the sun-kissed skin when August ends, I start anticipating the sound of crunching leaves and the taste of Pumpkin Spice; so as we wrap up our summers it is a great time to get organized and clean out some of our old clothes.

Cleaning out our closets on occasion is a great way to start fresh and de-clutter. It helps us see what we really wear all the time and what we tend to impulsively buy. It gives us a new look at the clothes we have and gives us a good perspective on anything we may need or not. So here are some tips to help you clean out your closet!

  • Take Everything Out

Yes, I mean it. Take all of your hangers off of the rack and lay them on your bed.

  • Separate Clothes by Item or Color

Depending on how you like things organized separate your clothes either by items (tank tops, dresses, long sleeves) or by color. This will let you see what you have individually. Personally, I separate by items.

  • Out With the Old

Once you have separated your clothes go through them to see what needs to be either thrown out or donated. If you haven’t worn something in six months it probably needs to go. Ask yourself these questions:

  • How long has it been since I have worn this?
  • Is it tattered and worn?
  • Does it still fit?


  • Fix and Hang Clothes

Once you have separated and gone through your clothes hang them back up on hangers. This is a great time to take your clothes off of the hangers, shake them out and hang them all facing the same way. It gives the fabric a chance to breathe and will look organized in your closet.

  • Donate or Clothes Swap

Now you have some clothes that need to be either donated to a local thrift store or given to someone in need. The clothes that you don’t wear anymore gives someone else a chance to have something almost new! You could also throw a clothes swapping party with girls who you know that need clothes. Gather them together and let them go through the clothes, get your friends involved by having them donate their hand-me-downs and have some fun!

I hope these tips help get you started! Have some fun while bein

On Choosing Vegan

Author, Mary Albers Felkins

When someone says, “I’m vegan” the response might vary anywhere from “What the heck is that?” to “Are you crazy?”

How do I know? Because I’ve been guilty of responding both ways, coupled with the haughty proclamation, “Get me to the nearest Chick-fil-A!”

Let me start with a simple definition…

Vegan (noun): one who consumes only plant based foods and eliminates animal products, including dairy, eggs, and fish. A vegetarian is one who eliminates only beef and poultry and fish, while still choosing to consume dairy and eggs. Other variations of vegetarian exist, as well.

As a former professional Dietitian, I applaud a vegan, plant-based diet for its potential health benefits. Volumes of research, blogs/vlogs, and documentaries abound (some credible, others not so much or, worse, not at all) about the questionable treatment of animals meant for processing and/or the cleanliness of processing plants, as well as what consumption of said processed animal might be doing to our insides. However, that’s not the focus of this article.

Back to being vegan…

In a world choked by fast food and convenience-packaged snacks, planning ahead is essential for a vegan or her health might suffer. Key nutrients might be lacking, stealing energy reserves in muscle tissue to meet caloric need, particularly if she’s physically active (sports, ballet, fitness enthusiast, gymnastics).

Today’s market caters well to a vegan. Most major grocery stores carry a wide variety of vegan-approved products. A plethora of fresh fruits and vegetables can be found at local Farmer’s Markets and health food stores.

What about Protein for the Vegan?

Protein is an energy-yielding nutrient (4 calories/gram) required for the building and repair of our bodies. Protein is the substance of cells, muscle tissue, and organs. Physiological proteins consist of 20 different amino acids, the building blocks of protein. The cool thing is, God created our cells with the ability to synthesize amino acids. Ahem, all but 9. Did you get that? All but 9.

Essential Amino Acids

Histidine, isoleucine, leucine, lysine, methionine, phenylalanine, threonine, tryptophan, and valine are referred to as ‘essential amino acids’ because they can not be synthesized by the body and must be consumed via food sources. Otherwise, a vegan is at risk for protein deficiency. Any food that lacks one or more of these nine essentials is considered an ’incomplete protein’.

An easy, no-brainer source of complete protein is beef, chicken, fish, egg, milk. So, in order for a vegan to assure she’s getting these 9 essentials, she’ll need to consume a good amount of beans and grains (Think beans and rice, peanut butter and whole wheat bread…). The body can synthesize a complete protein from the amino acids contained in these plant foods. Cool beans, huh? J Varieties of beans and grain don’t have to be consumed together in one meal/snack, but should be consumed in adequate quantity throughout the day.

Lest you think a vegan is relegated to a daily, heaping plate full of kale, a vegan diet, in truth, invites the consumption of hearty, carbohydrate and nutrient-rich plant foods, such as potatoes, sweet potatoes, chick peas, and hearty whole wheat breads and other grains.

Whatever reason a person might have for making the switch from an animal-based diet, it remains a terrific alternative for anyone willing to do the research and plan ahead.

Here’s a web site I recommend for both the vegan and ‘vegan curious’ called Forks Over Knives.

As you take a thorough and discerning look around Forks Over Knives (or any other site), pray about whether God may be calling you to head this direction. If so, great. And, with that, I exhort you to, first, become a good student of what that’ll involve and how to assure you’re consuming an adequate supply of essential nutrients and calories and, second, have a ready and humble answer for those who might challenge you with, “Why would you do that?”

If a plant-based diet isn’t for you, that’s perfectly fine, too. In either case, join me in refraining from casting judgment on those who’ve chosen the vegetarian route and those who can’t wait to sink their teeth into a marinated sirloin steak. Because God’s word is clear: “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” I Corinthians 10:31

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Former Registered Dietitian with Masters degree in nutrition

Author of inspirational romance, creator of happily ever afters

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